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: How do you prevent comparison from interfering your confidence in your abilities

05-25-2016, 08:36 PM
I know that with everything, there's always going to be people better at something than you. However, I'm just starting out and often I'm comparing myself to some people my age and I start getting insecure about my art.

How can I possible curb this?

Thank you!

(Sorry if this is in the wrong section.)

Susan Mulno
05-25-2016, 09:38 PM
Hi, welcome to the forum!

It can be intimidating at times to see others excel pass you. It is better to make them an inspiration instead. Interview your self on what you like best about another's work and do what you can to learn how to achieve it for yourself.

It also helps when you realize that even the best artists tend to suffer the same malady. No matter how good we are at something someone impresses (and hopefully motivates) us .

Just remember, if you aren't having fun, you're doing it wrong! :biggrin:

05-26-2016, 04:14 AM
By really internalizing the fact that you're still learning. You just started. You do not have to be at the same level as the guy who's been selling paintings for fifteen years now. It's an open door, but you have to aware of this. A lot of people say things like 'some are born with it, but I had to work for it' when the truth is that we all have to work for it. Hard. And a lot. And the inevitable result of this is that it's going to take a while to get at the level where you want to be. But that's okay. No artist is ever done learning.
Be patient and forgiving with yourself. You are learning. You don't have to run a marathon in under five minutes. As Susan said; try to find inspiration in the works you admire. Right now they seem intimidating, but try to figure out how they do it. See if you can find work in progress images. Learn from them. Find out what makes that work so impressive. And then break it down into little things that you can work on.
They once were at the very same place where you are now, looking up to others and probably feeling insecure as well. Hell, maybe they still are.

Everyone does things at their own pace. The people your age who are already a lot further may have been at it for years now, may have had teachers around them that helped them improve faster by nudging them in the right directions; there are lots of factors that influence how quickly you improve.

Overall; as hard as it may seem, try not to sweat it too much. Allow yourself the time to grow and learn from people who have already learned what you wish to learn. The insecurity might not even ever go away, but that's alright as well. We all have our insecurities, but as long as we do not allow them to drag us down and continue working on them, it'll be alright.

05-26-2016, 08:22 AM
Welcome to the forum. The other Ladies have good advice. I need to keep all the points in mind also.

05-26-2016, 09:57 AM
Well said. I just started painting in December with a couple of months of drawing under my belt. Everything I've painted brings a smile to my face when I see it. I might get weird feedback from family and friends on certain pieces but I don't care. I know where I'm at and I'm very comfortable with it. Sometimes my wife has to remind me to have fun and not get overly technical, it happens. Then I have what I call a splash night and just cover a canvas with whatever happens. I let the brush lead me and it's fun, lot's of fun. Eventually I get back to learning. And so it goes :-) As Frank says, Have Some More Fun. Horizon, Sky, Middle and Foreground.