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wordwarrior 06-12-2015 07:15 PM

Help me please! I'm the parent of an artist
My 16 year old son is a highly gifted artist. Of course, I want to help him to spend his time best preparing for whatever he chooses to do (which he is uncertain of at the time). He loathes school work. We homeschool, and it's like misery and torture (for both of us) for him to do his work. He will do it, painfully, but I think he hates it so much he probably isn't retaining a single thing. (We have tried many different curricula.)

I don't want to waste his time. Did anyone of you struggle with this and have advice for me? I think I want someone just to say, "you know what, let him do what he loves and forget the math." I could still have him read or do some writing or basic things I think are important, but I'm not sure requiring him to do a full curriculum is the way to go.

Does anyone have advice for "what should he be doing now, during his days?" Since he hates school so much, I don't see college as being an option, but with so many online choices, that's not ruled out.

I'm just grasping for straws about which direction to go.

Thank you for anyone who has a word of wisdom for me.


just 06-12-2015 07:51 PM

First I'm a retired teacher my parents were teachers. What qualifications do you have to home school? It took me four years of college and one year of internship and student teaching to get my teaching certificate. Then I could teach but it took 3 more semesters of higher math and passing an 8 hour exam before I could be certified to teach math from K - 12. You asked for advice. Get your child to a qualified school. You don't have a the ability to teach him. He's a child and letting him do what he wants is not giving him the best chances in life. Math is important in art.

wordwarrior 06-12-2015 08:02 PM

First, I didn't ask you to investigate my credentials as a teacher. I am a teacher. I quit my job as a high school English teacher to come home and teach my children. I write books about teaching. My question wasn't about your perception of my ability. It was a sincere question about my son.

wordwarrior 06-12-2015 08:05 PM

You really need to watch How Schools Kill Creativity, the TED talk by Sir Ken Robinson.

just 06-12-2015 08:11 PM

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wordwarrior 06-12-2015 08:13 PM

What kind of person are you? "As good as my parenting?" What do you know about my parenting? I asked a sincere and honest question and you give me the most smart alek reply. But worse than that, you're illogical. No, I didn't ask for you to evaluate my teaching credentials. My son doesn't need another school. I am the best teacher for him.

Please let a sensible person answer me.

Lashdown91 06-12-2015 08:37 PM

What artwork does he like to produce? A proper education is essential, in my opinion, and may actually benefit him immensely with his art.

chanda95 06-12-2015 10:06 PM

Hi there.

I am also a homeschool parent and yes I feel I am quite qualified to teach my own child. Our schools have F ratings and one school was completely wiped clean, including the principal and office staff, and replaced. I have heard more than one complaint about the teachers here and bullying and drug use are rampant within the schools. No, I will not send my child into that environment.

I applaud you for your decision. You realize that public school can be great for some, but it is not for all.

What curriculums have you used? I wish I could tell you no on the math but sadly that is something that must be taught as painful as it may be. It is our toughest subject as well, but we do it.

It took me a while to find a system that works for us. I started off with one curriculum and it didn't work. We currently work out of Abeka for seatwork and use Time4Learning as his computer based program. I do seatwork during the regular school year and he chooses to do the time4learning as his summer school curriculum because he just loves it. Have you considered not doing a solid curriculum? By that I mean..I have a friend who uses MathUSee and she will use Abeka for language arts and another program for science. She basically makes her own curriculum based off the needs of her child.

I think incorporating fun into learning is also important. Music, art, field trips..all can and should be incorporated into the curriculum and done in a way that relates what they did during their field trip to the seatwork they are doing.

There are also some programs, like Abeka, that have accredited distance programs where they work online with teachers. Maybe that could be an option as well?

wordwarrior 06-12-2015 10:15 PM

Thank you very much. Yes, we've used a variety and I much prefer to adjust to each child. He has learned probably more than the average high school graduate, through hands-on learning, which I think is far underrated. I have a whole theory about formal academics and how it robs children of so much, and how testing is the goal now as opposed to true education, and how children learn, etc., so we use them (formal academics) as a tool, not something by which we are enslaved, if that makes sense.

An example of my son's art (I couldn't post it on my first post):

chanda95 06-12-2015 10:26 PM

I agree. One of the many reasons I refuse to out my child in public school is the common core. My sister has two Master's degrees in education and has taught both special education and currently teaches regular education. She is so burned out and disgruntled at the whole system and is an advocate for homeschooling as well.

Your son's work is absolutely incredible. You should be so proud! Wow...and he is only 16? Fantastic.

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